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Only Ever Yours by Louise O’Neill – review

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Freida is in her last year at school. By the end of the year she will be selected as a companion: she will be chosen by a boy and they will marry and she will be his for the rest of her life. She will give birth to all his sons and do all the work that he needs her to do.

The alternative: becoming a concubine or a chastity. A concubine means being a plaything for men. A chastity would mean being stuck in a school forever, teaching girls how to be lady-like and beautiful.

Girls are designed not born. Boys are born not designed. They are made like Barbie dolls to be a perfect replica of what the world expects from a woman.

Freida never gets to interact with boys until her last year. She's not allowed to talk to people in the years below or above her. She spends her life with the same girls and then the rest of her life gets chosen for her at the ceremony at the end of her sixteenth year.

Only Ever Yours is one of the most unique and original books I've ever read. I've never read a book like it: it instantly became more enjoyable! I can well imagine that one day we will live in a world where women are not taught like men, and don't have any kind of proper education at all and they are brought up in a school where how you look is the only thing that is important.

Everyday all the eves – all the girls in the school that Freida grows up with - are ranked by photos that they post on a website called Myface, and everyday people comment on what their appearance should look like and how they look. I can imagine this being our future because in some ways it already happens. There are places in the world that believe women have no right to education and that women shouldn't have the right to work; all they need to do is look pretty and clean the house for their husband. There are tabloid newspapers that rank women and comment on how they look. They criticise how they look when they pop out to go and get a pint of milk, without putting on a red carpet dress. It's wrong, very wrong! But it is like a more minor version of the world that Louise O'Neill imagines and it's scary that one day we might live like that. Unlikely, but anything is possible in the sexist society that we live in.

I didn't feel like I could relate to any of the characters, but that isn't a bad thing – all the characters live a life that is so different to mine that I can't possibly begin to understand how they must feel. But also in some ways I felt like I could relate to some of the characters; Freida is always saying how she feels like everyone around her is prettier than her. I think most girls can relate to this, so in some ways I could relate and in other ways I couldn't.

Only Ever Yours had a way of making me feel glad to have the life I live, but it also had a way of making me feel really bad about myself and question my personal appearance. I guess that is in some ways the point of the book: all the girls are constantly being made to feel bad about themselves so I guess that's another way that I related to the characters.

I think Only Ever Yours will go far, or at least I hope it does. You don't get very many books quite as unique as this one anymore. It's a new release so I hope to be able to read much more reviews and good comments about it soon! It's a really great book and I think readers of all genders should read it. I think it could give boys a great insight into what it is like being a girl, because although the world that Freida lives in isn't quite like the world we live in, girls do always get judged on appearance wherever they go. I think Only Ever Yours could reveal to girls just how much of a sexist society we live in.

I will give Only Ever Yours 5 stars because it is a fantastic book! I hope to see and read more books by Louise O'Neill soon!

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